Sunday, September 30, 2007
DILBERT'S WORDS OF WISDOM
Dilbert's Words of Wisdom
1. I can please only one person per day. Today is not your day. Tomorrow's not looking good either.
2. I love deadlines. I especially love the swooshing sound they make as they go flying by.
3. Tell me what you need, and I'll tell you how to get along without it.
4. Accept that some days you're the pigeon, and some days you're the statue.
5. Needing someone is like needing a parachute. If he isn't there the first time you need him, chances are you won't need him again.
6. I don't have an attitude problem. You have a perception problem.
7. On the keyboard of life, always keep one finger on the escape key.
8. I do not suffer from stress - I'm a carrier...
.9. Everybody is somebody else's weirdo...
10. Never argue with an idiot. They drag you down to their level then beat you with experience.
WOMEN'S LEAGUE FACES IT'S DEMONS
Women's league faces its demons
Vuyo Sokupa
05 April 2007 07:59
The African National Congress Women’s League (ANCWL) has been hard hit by neglected branches, failed recruitment strategies, unstable provincial leadership and inadequate resources, says league secretary general Bathabile Dlamini. In a frank report presented to the women’s league’s four-yearly national general council, held in Kempton Park last weekend, Dlamini also lambasted the league’s leaders for not fulfilling their official responsibilities. Her report warns members against the emerging phenomenon of forming groups in the run-up to conference elections. Continuing even after conferences and developing into cliques and factions, these were “a virus and a demon that threatens the very existence of our movement”, Dlamini says. Her comments were reinforced by league president Nosiviwe Mapisa-Nqakula, who told delegates in her opening address: “The organisation needs to enhance its organisational and political capacity to take advantage of the space created to push forward the cause of women’s emancipation.”
Friday, September 28, 2007
NEWSPAPER FINGERED IN MANTO ROW
Ok, so forgive me if I have somewhat lost the plot here! If memory serves me correctly, Manto made a huge song and dance about using state and government facilities when she was in hospital! So why would she have been in a Medi-clinic, which to my knowledge is a private hospital!
Is it perhaps because she has no faith in the Government hospitals and/or staff - or is it because once she had made it clear that she only uses Goverment institutions, she felt confident enough to scuttle across to a private clinic or perhaps she no longer has faith in her own department!
Whatever it is, surely that should also be investigated - clearly she is not eating enough beetroot and garlic and lemon juice to keep her healthy and fit!
Newspaper fingered in Manto row
August 15 2007 at 05:37AM
By Political Bureau
Cape Town Medi-Clinic, claiming that Health Minister Manto Tshabalala-Msimang's medical records have disappeared from its secured archives, on Tuesday laid a charge of theft against the Sunday Times at the Cape Town central police station. Sunday Times editor Mondli Makhanya on Tuesday night told the Cape Times he was not aware of the theft charges. "I don't know about the charges, but I can state categorically that we did not steal anything," Makhanya said. The Cape Times has learned that Tshabalala-Msimang's office asked the hospital to furnish her with her medical records. The records are at the centre of a Sunday Times report that alleged that Tshabalala-Msimang abused her position to demand alcohol be smuggled to her while she was at the hospital two years ago.
The hospital authorities apparently called the minister's office on Tuesday to say it had checked its archives and found that "everything on her has been removed". Patients' files are transferred to the deep archives once they leave the hospital. Strict security rules regulate hospital employees and others who want to access these files. The files are said to have been kept in a "highly secured area". However, a source said on Tuesday that the hard copy files - detailing Tshabalala-Msimang's records during her stay at the hospital two years ago - had been removed and the back-up electronic version had been deleted "irretrievably". "It is not clear what date the files were removed," a source said.
This article was originally published on page 1 of Cape Times on August 15, 2007
STRONG WOMEN'S LEAGUE NEEDED TO FIGHT POVERTY
So typical - the men get to do all the fun stuff and the women must clean up the mess! Our erstwhile President tells the women not to worry about who is going to be elected next, but tha they should rather concentrate on the eradication of poverty and the solving of gender violence!
Perhaps he should follow his own advice!
Strong women's league needed to fight poverty
Johannesburg, South Africa
02 April 2007 09:17
A strong, vibrant and democratic African National Congress Women's League (ANCWL) was needed to fight poverty and empower women throughout the country, ANCWL president Nosiviwe Mapisa-Nqakula said on Sunday. "We commit ourselves to building an ANCWL that becomes a beacon of hope and a symbol of unity through action and work within the community where we live," said Mapisa-Nqakula. She was addressing more than a thousand provincial delegates at the ANCWL national council in Esselen Park, Ekurhuleni. "We call for the establishment of a special women's fund to facilitate and fast track the total participation of women in the mainstream economy. "Mapisa-Nqakula said the fund, which could be sponsored by members of the league, will help empower underprivileged women and eradicate poverty. She also called for the establishment of an organisation that will oversee women's developmental programmes. "We call on the South African government through the president to establish [a] ministry of women's affairs, planning and coordination. This will ensure that all poverty eradication programmes will be effectively and efficiently developed, implemented and monitored," Mapisa-Nqakula said.
Oh this is priceless! Here we have a Brit, who now lives in Cape Town, telling us what is good for the country! Typical!
Firstly, never mind about the ex pats all over the world - they have left this country for whatever reason and sure, it would be nice to have them come home, but the bottom line is it probably isn't going to happen!
Secondly, before we start "importing" skilled people from other countries, wouldn't it be more cost effective and probably a huge boost to the economy to employ the thousands of 'pale males over 40" who have huge skills and who were previously just discarded due to affirmative action requirements and BEE compliance!
There are thousands of people sitting around, dipping into their savings account and/or pension monies whilst hoping to find something just to keep them going and thousands more who are trying to start new businesses, but who are actually not entrepreneaural at all but who have no choice but to try and make a go of it.
"What South Africa needs is fresh blood." South Africa does not recognise the qualifications of many overseas professionals. For example, lawyers trained overseas have to redo their entire degrees in order to practice here, unlike in the UK and US, where conversion courses are available. The situation is similar with doctors and engineers. "South Africa is not the only country experiencing a skills shortage. Other countries are in a similar position, so we are competing for the same skills. Without compromising on standards, the authorities here need to do everything within their power to attract the right people to the country."
Tuesday, September 25, 2007
THE POWER OF NETWORKING - PART 30
PART 30
Following on from last week’s offerings on Networking for Introverts, here are some more tips for other Introverts.
When I first started Networking for my Business, I was like a kid with a new toy. If there was a Networking event, I was at it. I could not get enough! Not only would I be at every single networking event, I would also scurry around frenetically trying to touch base with every single person at the event. I wanted every single person’s card and/or contact details because each person, each card, each contact detail was an opportunity. It was madness personified!
Many of the individuals were not really interested in meeting with me, but felt obliged to give me their business cards and/or contact details. When I contacted them to set up a meeting, they hummed and ha-ed and finally agreed to a meeting and then on d-day, despite me having confirmed the meeting, they just did not pitch! Wasted time for both of us and a somewhat disillusioned me!
You see, the bottom line is that not everyone ‘gets’ the whole networking concept and as the old saying goes, you can lead a horse to the water, but you cannot force it to drink. In my enthusiasm I had automatically assumed that everyone would be as excited about networking as I was. Well they aren’t – so deal with it, get over it and move on!
Nowadays, I am a lot more sedate about networking. Don’t get me wrong, I am still as passionate about it as I ever was – I just look at it and deal with it a whole lot differently.
I no longer feel the need to attend every networking meeting on the planet – two or three a month are more than enough.
I no longer feel the need to obtain every single participating person’s business card and/or contact details. Now I ‘cherry pick’ a few individuals who I think I may either have synergy with or who I feel ‘drawn’ to meet (yes I go with my gut feel!) and I touch base with those who seek me out.
I no longer get stressed out if people don’t pitch for a meeting, now I take work along with me and get on with it, recognising the fact that everyone is not automatically on the same page as what I am.
My diary is still full with meetings sometimes booked as far as two or even three months in advance, but I no longer have this intense need to make a difference in someone’s life.
You see, building relationships takes time and commitment, and although networking gives you a foot in the door, the relationship still needs to be built and that is not something that should be rushed, and quite frankly running around frenetically is not only exhausting, but it is also very time consuming.
So take your time, accept your limitations and the limitations of others. Go to fewer events but make them quality events. Meet with fewer people, but make sure they are people who value who you are and what you do and make those meetings count and finally, be gentle with yourself, don’t push yourself too hard and too fast.
Monday, September 24, 2007
MAKING PEACE WITH YOURSELF
Today’s message comes from Doris Mortman who says “Until you make peace with who your are ... you'll never be content with what you have.”
How many times have we looked at extremely wealthy people who are obviously driven and who seem to be frenetic about making more and more money and we think to ourselves “When is enough, enough?” I know I have. Yet they don’t seem to know ‘when enough is enough’ and they continue to strive to make yet more money. People like Bill Gates and perhaps Donald Trump come to mind. I am sure that if either of them lives to be 100, they could not spend all that they have accumulated and yet they both seem driven to add to their already huge piles of money.
And it’s not only about the money, what about the beautiful super models that we see prancing about on the runway and we think to ourselves (well I do anyway) “they look perfect!”. Yet they are constantly going on new diets and primping am preening in an effort to look yet more gorgeous!
Let’s pick on the actors and actresses as well – there are many of them that are famous, they rolling around in the money, the accolades, the famousness (if there is such a word) and yet they strive, cajole, steal from under the nose of others, a part that they ‘just have to have’! Why – what drives them on and on.
And it’ not always about the money, there are people who live in extreme poverty and in the midst of that they strive to give yet more of themselves to others. Mother Theresa comes to mind here – what is it about these people that there never seems to be an end to what they desire, what – for them seems to be a never ending quest to achieve, whatever it is that they have sent their minds and their hearts to?
I suspect that I am about to put the cat amongst the pigeons here, but I think that for some it is because they have made peace with who they are and others haven’t yet.
For some, making peace with who they are and accepting who they are in the face of all adversity means being able to achieve more and more. But that is in terms of achievement, the money is a secondary thing. They are driven by their need to perform, or their need to achieve, or their need to inspire. They are caught up in the passion of what they do and who they are.
For others, it is about making the money. They, on some level question who they are, what they are about and what they can do. Despite being famous and rich they are insecure about who they are as individuals and so they desperately strive to be the best. They are never happy in their own skins or in their own minds and are driven to prove how good, fantastic, clever etc that they are – not to the world in general, but to themselves.
Which category do you fit into? Have you accepted who you are or are you still trying to prove to yourself, who you are?
Sunday, September 23, 2007
HEADLINES FROM THE YEAR 2029
HEADLINES FROM THE YEAR: 2029
Ozone created by electric cars now killing millions in the seventh largest country in the world, Mexifornia, formerly known as California.
White minorities still trying to have English recognized as Mexifornia's third language.
Spotted Owl plague threatens northwestern United States crops and livestock.
Baby conceived naturally. Scientists stumped.
Couple petitions court to reinstate heterosexual marriage.
Last remaining Fundamentalist Muslim dies in the AmericanTerritory of the Middle East (formerly known as Iraq, Afghanistan, Syria and Lebanon).
Iran still closed off; physicists estimate it will take at least 10 more years before radioactivity decreases to safe levels.
France pleads for global help after being taken over by Jamaica.
Castro finally dies at age 112; Cuban cigars can now be imported legally, but President Chelsea Clinton has banned all smoking.
George Z. Bush says he will run for President in 2036.
Postal Service raises price of first class stamp to $17.89 and reduces mail delivery to Wednesdays only.
85-year $75.8 billion study: Diet and Exercise is the key to weight loss. Average weight of Americans drops to 250 lbs.
Japanese scientists have created a camera with such a fast shutter speed, they now can photograph a woman with her mouth shut.
Massachusetts executes last remaining conservative.
Supreme Court rules punishment of criminals violates their civil rights.
Average height of NBA players is now nine feet, seven inches.
New federal law requires that all nail clippers, screwdrivers, fly swatters and rolled-up newspapers must be registered by January 2036.
Congress authorizes direct deposit of formerly illegal political contributions to campaign accounts.
IRS sets lowest tax rate at 75 percent.
Florida voters still having trouble with voting machines.
Now, send this to whoever you want to and as many as you want and guess what....NOTHING will happen. No miracles, no money, absolutely nothing, except you might make someone smile
Saturday, September 22, 2007
MAYOR'S OFFICE SWEPT AGAIN TO 'CLEAR UP SAGA'
This is reminiscent of staff members refusing to take a 'lie dectector test' when stock and/or money has gone missing. If you have nothing to hide, why on earth would you jump up and down and have a fuss - this would actually prove your innocence!
Mayor's office swept again 'to clear up saga'
Carvin Goldstone
February 19 2007 at 07:01AM
But the NIA argued that they would only sweep a government office at the request of the government entity. Following several media reports on the matter, Mlaba called a press conference at which he said his main concern was not who had ordered the sweep, but that he had not been informed why it was to be done. Following Mlaba's reaction last week, Intelligence Minister Ronnie Kasrils instituted an investigation into the incident. A senior NIA investigator was dispatched to Durban to find out why the occupants of the offices that had been swept had not been informed. NIA spokesperson Lorna Daniels said now that the investigation was concluded, Kasrils was satisfied that there had been no ulterior motives."It is clear that there was a regrettable lapse of communication between the NIA and the mayor's office. A second sweep at the mayor's office was conducted (last) week to remove any doubt or concern that may have arisen following the incident," she said.
SAME SEX MARRIAGES WILL DESTROY THE ZULUS
Sipho Khumalo
Anger at the Civil Unions Act, which was passed by the government in 2006, emerged in a debate titled "Democracy meets Tradition". The session examined how the constitution catered for Zulu tradition and culture.
'The present constitution is full of demons'
'What we are going to have is an influx of gays and lesbians into South Africa'
ONE IN THREE SA TEENS IS A DRUG ADDICT
How very sad! The reality of this is that our children, the very people who we expect to grow up and become the leaders of the future, don't have very much future if this article is a true indication of what is happening.
Again I say, How very sad!
'One in three SA teens is an addict'
August 05 2006 at 09:46AM
By Sheree Russouw
Downward spiral
Schoolchildren, she says, are the drug peddlers' market. "Teenagers that are hooked become adults that are hooked. They stay addicts for a long time or die of it. It's just a spiral downwards - and ruins their lives. "Drug use was "exploding" in township communities, she said. "We are seeing more drugging among children and teenagers from poor communities. Drugs are coming from township children going to urban schools and children in urban areas going into townships. On the weekends they have parties and take drugs - we're seeing a seepage of heroin and cocaine into the townships, especially in Gauteng."
Drug use 'exploding' in townships
GROWN UP TOOLS FOR PROTECTING CHILDREN ONLINE
16 February 2007 at 07h26
Washington - A children's advocacy group on Thursday launched the first-of-its-kind free online safety resource to help parents and educators protect youths from being exploited on the Internet.
NetSmartz411, as the online program is called, is managed by experts at the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC) who can answer frequently asked questions about Internet safety and online security.
"Parents and guardians have a very tough job keeping up with their children in this ever changing world of technology," said Ernie Allen, NCMEC president and chief executive officer.
He said the resource located at NetSmartz411.org was made possible by a $500 000 grant from the Qwest Foundation, which works to promote online safety awareness.
People who use the new site can inquire on a variety of topics including how to report Internet crime, how to be on the lookout for online sexual predators or what is a chat room and how it works.
Parents can also get a grasp of the lingo used by youngsters on the Internet. For example, 143 stands for I love you, PAL: parents are listening, or POS: parent over shoulder.
According to a recent NCMEC-commissioned study by the University of New Hampshire, one in seven youths online is sexually solicited, and one in three youths will encounter unwanted exposure to sexually explicit material online. - Sapa-AFP
Tuesday, September 18, 2007
THE POWER OF NETWORKING - PART 29
PART 28
Following on from last week’s offerings on Networking for Introverts, here are some more tips for other Introverts.
When I first started looking for business at networking events, I had to get myself to every networking function that was available. Please believe me when I tell you that I spent many a very uncomfortable hour standing around trying to force myself to smile and introduce myself to total strangers, because I wanted their business desperately, whilst trying to look casual, professional and anything but desperate. Going to every meeting that was taking place was a really good thing, no matter how difficult it was at the time because that is how I learnt, what kind of meeting best suited me. For me (and I suspect that this would work for most of the other introverts out there) a semi-facilitated, loosely structured type of environment works best. At least I am sort of introduced to people (not necessarily one at a time or even one on one) and they recognise me (and I them) and we can strike up a conversation and get talking. Going to networking functions where you don’t know anyone and nobody knows you and you have to go up to strangers and introduce yourself is like going ‘cold calling’! That, as far as I am concerned is for the birds and I am not a vulture!
So now, when a new meeting (with a bunch of people that I have not come across yet) is marketed or I am invited to attend something new, I always go to check it out, but that does not necessarily mean that I will automatically join up. There are different types of networking meetings and I function better at these when I feel comfortable in my surroundings. This also does not mean that I am restricted to one group – quite the contrary – I belong to several different groups, each one slightly different from the other, but all semi-facilitated, loosely structured and made up of individuals who are serious about doing business!
Find the type of meeting that fits with you as an individual. Make sure that you feel comfortable, meet the individuals and grab all of the opportunities that come your way.
Monday, September 17, 2007
THE WIZE MAN
The quote today comes form Naguib Mabiuz – author, who says “You can tell whether a man is clever by his answers. You can tell whether a man is wise by his questions.”
I have a pet hate, actually to be completely honest – I have several pet hates, but for the purpose of this piece, I have a pet hate. That pet hate is people who don’t ask questions!
Not, I’m not talking about asking questions for the sake of asking the question – I am talking about asking the question, because you don’t understand the statement! Believe me there is a huge difference.
Those of you who know me, know that I run a workshop/course on “A practical Guide to Starting a Business”. I have facilitated the course with people on a ‘one on one’ basis and I have stood in front of a group of people and delivered the same course material. In both instances I have received ‘blank stares’ from equally ‘blank faces’, when, as I go through the course material, I have asked the question (that I am sure most of you who have delivered any kind of course material, asks from time to time) “Do you understand what I have just said or would you like to ask a question?”
I am not sure if it is because people are scared of looking like a fool, or what the reason is, but somehow, somewhere, someone has no idea of what it is that I have just said and they don’t ask any questions! I cannot understand this at all. You see for me, a person looks more like a fool, if they tell me that they understand something when they don’t, because when it comes to doing the practical side of things and they can’t do it, then they look like the fool. I am often heard saying that ‘the only stupid question is the one that you do not ask’.
I’ve got to the point now, from pure frustration, where, when people tell me that they understand what it is that I have just said, I ask them to firstly repeat what I have said and then secondly I ask them to tell me in their own words what they understand from the statement – you’d be amazed at the different kinds of answers that I get! Some of them would be really amusing if the situation were any different.
So ask the question, it doesn’t matter how stupid you may think that you look or feel – but at the end of the day, you will be the one that understands the content and you will be the one that will stand ‘head and shoulders’ above the rest.
Sunday, September 16, 2007
JOB DESCRIPTION FOR A PARENT
JOB Description for a Parent.
This is hysterical.
If it had been presented this way, I don't believe any of us would have done it!!!!
POSITION:
Mom, Mommy, Mama, Ma Dad, Daddy, Dada, Pa, Pop
JOB DESCRIPTION:
Saturday, September 15, 2007
Well done Bill Prinsloo!
Long arm of the law reaches Nqakula
Zelda Venter August 30 2007 at 05:36AM
Prinsloo further ruled that a writ be issued, authorising and directing the officer commanding of Pretoria Central police station (or any person he may direct) to immediately arrest Nqakula and to commit him to jail. The judge ordered the fine and imprisonment be suspended for 14 days from the date of his order, at which time Nqakula is "required to appear personally before this court" to show that he had complied fully with the order. Failing to do so, the minister will immediately be arrested and jailed.
This article was originally published on page 1 of Pretoria News on August 30, 2007
SA PEACEKEEPERS ARE FACING 117 CHARGES
Good heavens! What are these military types doing? So much for 'keeping the peace'!
SA peacekeepers are facing 117 charges
November 13 2006 at 04:28AM
By Karyn Maughan and Alex Eliseev
'We can't speculate on what happened there'
But the man who sold Chiliza the dagga - for whom the SANDF says it is unable to provide a name or age - wasn't as lucky. "This office (Chief Military Legal Services) has been notified, via the operational reporting channel, that the local Sudanese soldier who sold the dagga to Rifleman Chiliza was tried according to Sudanese law, found guilty and as punishment was executed by having his throat slit," military correspondence noted. In another case, a lieutenant, Lawrence Tiro Toolo, was armed and deployed to Burundi, despite being out on bail on a murder charge in KwaZulu-Natal.
'We can't have this kind of reputation'
A rifleman who shot five of his colleagues, killing one, before shooting himself. It is understood that, prior to the incident, the man had sought permission to return home for a "cleansing ritual" (May 20 2005).
Why a Burundian woman was flown into South Africa on a military plane, allegedly to explore business interests in the country (2006).
How naked photos of a female corporal in the DRC last year came to be used as a commander's computer screen-saver (2006).
This article was originally published on page 1 of The Star on November 13, 2006
Thursday, September 13, 2007
THE PRESSURES OF BEING A MODERN FATHER
Theo Garrun
19 June 2007 at 11h00
Sunday was Father's Day, and we hope all the dads out there had a chance to relax.
They certainly need it. Today's dads face numerous challenges in an increasingly stressful and complex world of blended families, dual income homes, and the ever-increasing pressure to keep up with the Joneses.
There are many misconceptions about stress in the family - none more pronounced perhaps than the belief that fathers only face stress at work.
So says Dr Judy Jaye, business development manager for the Stress Clinic, a medically aligned, holistic stress management company, and division of international communication training firm, the Voice Clinic.
"At its core, the misconception holds that on the home front, a partner, domestic helper or an outsourced solution like a family member or professional company that sees to everything from child-minding to home shopping deliveries, alleviates the concerns and cares of a father.
"Nothing could be further from the truth," says Jaye. "Firstly, there are the financial stressors of having and raising children. This pressure has always been with us, but today a number of influencer's magnify it.
"For example, today's child faces an extreme amount of peer pressure in terms of their social lives - not so much for drinking and smoking - but in terms of where they hang out, where do their families go on holiday, what brand clothes are they wearing and whether they have the latest cellphone or iPod.
"It's an out-and-out fact, every father is placed under pressure by their kids to provide these items."
Not only that, but the pressure to provide a tertiary education has become increasingly important.
"Stress today includes the fact that people are almost forced to send their kids to university because jobs are so limited, and without a tertiary education, their children's options are very limited."
So, dad has to worry about where to send their kids for further education. What is the best institution? Can they get in? What bridging courses, subjects and extra-curricular help will they need to fulfil their dreams of becoming a doctor, or lawyer, and what are the best institutions or people to supply this?
"It's a question of balance," says Jaye, "between what we can afford and we have to save for in the future. It's a particularly stressful question."
The second major stress that fathers face is the question of time.
There just doesn't seem to be enough of it - especially when trying to balance it between work and family commitments.
"Fathers do need to realise that they must devote and dedicate time to their families. Whether they are full-time or weekend dads, they must never lose sight of the fact that they are a role models for their children - and that they are needed"
Life without balance is chaos. Balancing life, according to the Stress Clinic, entails prioritising tasks into "must" for work and family, "should" for work and home activities that are important but not urgent, and "like" - actions which are enjoyable.
"You don't have time," Jaye says, "you make time". If you don't plan and balance your time properly - then you have stress. A third factor, which many fathers find stressful, is communication. They might be dynamos at work, but when it comes to communicating with their kids, many fathers just don't know where to begin.
"In any communication, be it at home or in the workplace, the goal must always be to maintain mutual respect," says Jaye. "This will ensure a positive outcome."
Fathers can help foster an environment where all parties feel safe to communicate by ensuring that not all communication is negative.
When stressed, it's easy to snap, or be curt and short, or criticise - but when this is the only environment that the family has, communication will stop, and family members will withdraw in fear of the constant negativity rather than communicate and risk being patronised, put-down or ridiculed.
"A key to better communication and mutual respect, as a father figure and role model is always to attack the problem, not the person," Jaye advises.
"For example, don't call someone stupid because he or she didn't clean up a milk spill. This label will stick with the child. Rather address the problem, being the spill, and say that it needs to be cleaned up."
Children will always come to a father for guidance and advice - in short, by taking the time to encourage and support them; dads can ensure a better tomorrow if they just take the time now.
"Focus on the positive. Praise your kids when they do well and always encourage them - don't just take it for granted that they know they've done well. Praise from a father is worth the world to a child," says Jaye.
She also reminds dads that effective communication is based on good listening skills.
"Really listen to what they are saying when they talk about dreams and tell you their stories. In this way fathers can help their kids win."
By being good listeners, dads can pick up clues as to what it is their children need from them to create a secure environment in which the child can achieve.
"Boundaries are very important," says Jaye.
"These help a child feel secure. Weekend dads in particular need to remember that children feel secure when they know where they stand, and when there is consistency.
"It is easy to indulge the feeling of wanting to always be the 'good guy' or try to win favour with the child by allowing to do and get everything they please - but remember, this isn't what is best for the child, and is often also just an easy way out for the parent - with horrible long term implications and effects."
Every member of the family needs to feel valued and part of the family relationship.
Fathers play a pivotal role in setting the roots and wings for their children by planning for the future, giving of their time, and supporting their children's dreams.
Despite the turmoil of today, families can be a great source of strength and energy, if parents take the time to work on creating a positive, secure and supportive environment.
For more information contact the Stress Clinic on 011-880-2334 or visit www.thestressclinic.com
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
TEMP WORK A CHANCE TO TEST THE WATERS
Temp work a chance to test the waters
10 August 2007 at 11h00
Louise Brouard of Quest Flexible Staffing Solutions gives some advice on choosing an agency: "Find out how long the agency has been in business, how many people are on its books, which industries it places flexstaffers in and whether you want to work in those industries. "Most important, look at the agency's approach and philosophy, and how it can assist you in building your career."
MR ZUMA - ARE YOU LISTENING
So you see - clearly his 'listening' is selective! Perhaps he has a hearing aid that he turns on and off!
Mr Zuma, are you listening?
Fikile-Ntsikelelo Moya: COMMENT
20 March 2007 11:59
Jacob Zuma is indeed a remarkable man. Witness his apparent political strategy. He has turned the effortless behaviour of keeping quiet while others say what they think into a political attribute. His supporters have not stopped telling us that he listens.
Tuesday, September 11, 2007
THE POWER OF NETWORKING - PART 28
PART 28
I was discussing Networking with one of my colleagues the other day when he turned around to me and said, in all honesty “I’m not a natural networker because I am an introvert!” I stood there with my mouth hanging open . . . for several seconds. You see, I am a natural networker and I am also an introvert! Ok everybody, you can get up off the floor now and stop laughing! I am an introvert! Ask my shrink!
It’s not that I am shy around people or afraid to be in public. Those of you who know me can attest to that. I not too good at small talk though, I much prefer to get into debates on issues that are important to me or not . . . Being with people on a constant basis often leaves me completely drained of all energy and I spend most weekends, on my own, relishing in the ‘space’ that I have on my own without any other people around me.
I am not ‘naturally’ good with people and although I have been told that I am a ‘people’s person’, I don’t feel that way at all. Mixing with people and interacting with them is a conscious thing for me and it is something that I have to work at – hard.
Why do I work hard at it? Well that’s quite simple – you see I understand the value of networking. I don’t see networking as a waste of time or a pain in the butt (although generally speaking, for introverts it is exactly that).
Networking for me, is me investing in myself and my company. You see, by developing my network in the way that I have, when I need a particular widget and/or a particular service, I don’t have to spend hours doing research on the internet, or paging through the yellow pages, or time and money sending out endless e-mails looking for help. It takes me one or two phone calls to find the exact person that I am looking for. In fact, if the truth be told, most of my colleagues phone me when they need anything because I usually have that particular contact within my data base.
For me that is a triple win situation. You see not only do I add value to the person who is looking for someone/something, I also add value to the person in my database who is that someone or who can provide that service, but in connecting these two, I have added huge value to myself – both will feel indebted to me and payback is always very sweet!
There’s a great deal more to Networking as an introvert, so more next week.
Monday, September 10, 2007
MOTIVATION - INSPIRATION & EXCELLENCE
So many times, we try and keep up with the people who originally inspired us, or the people that we look up to. Then when we are able to do so, we sink to our knees in despair and beat ourselves up because we have failed!
Why?
Why do we feel the need to do things at the same speed/time as everyone else? Are we not unique individuals who should be walking life to the beat of our own drums?
Surely it would be better for us (and probably less stressful for those we are trying to emulate) to set our own goals and arrive at our destination in our own time, having now experienced the lessons along the way that we were intended to learn?
Don’t always be in such a hurry! Take time to enjoy the journey! Take time to understand the lessons and therefore to learn from them! Take time to enjoy your life. Take time to be ‘all that you can be’.
Take time to be you.
Sunday, September 09, 2007
PMS BLUES
SELEBI GRILLED OVER MISSING FIREARMS
Oh wow! The crime was much worse "The level of crime was much higher when we had the rugby world cup here than today"! I wonder how the families of those victims of crime would react to that - it definitely isn't better than it was! I suppose though, that it is in keeping with Thabo's 'ostrich head in the sand' approach that he has towards HIV AIDS and CRIME in general. If 'he' doesn't see it then surely it can't be there!
I digress however, this is about missing guns! What is going to end up happening here is that the only people who will be left with guns are the criminal element. They will have purchased their guns, at their leisure, from the piles of guns that law abiding citizens have been forced to give up in the name of legislation. The police, most of whose guns have been either 'ligitimately stolen' and/or sold and then reported stolen, will therefore also have no fire power and fun will be had by all an sundry
The true victims, will lose their 'victim' status and the criminals will gain the title of victims!
Well, isn't that what is happening all over the country, if not the world at the moment?
Think about it!
Selebi grilled over missing firearms
Johannesburg, South Africa
27 January 2007 07:39
Police National Commissioner Jackie Selebi came under fire in Parliament on Friday for inadequate control of firearms and problems over police vehicles, South African Broadcasting Corporation news reported.
TABLE MOUNTAIN OFF LIMITS TO SMALL GROUPS AT NIGHT.
How very sad! Sad that the crime that 'does not exist according to our esteemed leader Thabo Mbeki' has reduced us to this. One of our most cherished tourist attractions (and remember tourist bring money to the economy, which means jobs to the people), has to be visited during the day or 'in convoy' at night.
How did we get to this place? How did we get to a situation where crime controls all - isn't that a bit like the tail wagging the dog!
Table Mountain off limits to small groups at night
Johannesburg, South Africa
23 December 2006 08:16
Couples and single people will not be allowed to visit Table Mountain after 10pm during the festive season, the Star reported on Friday. Said the general manager of Cape Town Tourism, Marriette du Toit: "It was in the best interest of those visiting Table Mountain that the decision to close the roads to individuals and couples was made."Smaller groups wanting to enter the roads after 10pm may contact us and we can help with arrangements."
THE TRUE COST OF MUGABE'S LAND GRAB
Mugabe thinks he is "morally right!" Personally, I don't think he would know what a moral is if it hit him in the head!
Don't get me wrong, I agree that non-whites should get their own little piece of land. I believe that everyone should be able to own a home, or land or whatever their hearts desire and their pockets can afford . . . but taking land, productive land from farmers and giving it to people who have no idea what to do with that land, somehow just doesn't cut it for me at all!
Destroying something for the sake of destruction or in this case to say "I gave you back the land, I am a hero!" somehow makes a complete mockery of the whole meaning of democracy.
What Mugabe has done here, makes me hang my head in sadness. Sadness for what was once an incredibly beautiful country, with hope and what has now become a joke.
Sad also that the rest of the world, including South Africa has just stood by and watched! Sad for all the loss of life, the loss of opportunity, the loss of human dignity and courage. Loss of something that could have been great - all in the name of greed - Mugabe's Greed!
The true cost of Mugabe's land grab
Harare, Zimbabwe
17 June 2007 08:16
Disruptions to livelihoods caused by President Robert Mugabe's controversial land-reform programme hastened the deaths of thousands of Zimbabweans and led to the loss of billions of dollars' worth of property, a new report says. The report, released on Saturday by the Zimbabwe Human Rights NGO Forum, says charges of crimes against humanity could be brought against the perpetrators.
Wednesday, September 05, 2007
TO LASH OR NOT TO LASH
This is exciting stuff folks and I will try and keep us all posted.
To lash or not to lash?
Rapule Tabane
23 August 2007 11:59
Loyalty in question: former deputy health minister Nozizwe Madlala-Routledge.
The ANC plan for party secretary general Kgalema Motlanthe to interview dismissed deputy health minister Nozizwe Madlala-Routledge is a compromise between those who want her disciplined for her comments about the ANC president and those who feel she should not be sanctioned by the party.